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July 11, 2005
I had planned on being finished or at least crochet trim shy of finished on the Giotto sweater today. Alas and Alack this was not meant to be. Instead of knitting I spent the day upset. Now I can be a bitch and have said so on many occassions but I don't think I am mean spirited.
Yesterday I came accross a post written by a lady I have met in person not just via net about another lady I have also met in person not just via net. Not a blog post but a post to a knitting list. Now I have always liked both of these gals. You know how it happens when two people with whom you enjoy corresponding are at odds with each other? If this has never happened to you let me tell you its no fun. I try not to get involved because.... typical Elka tangent:
I play pinochle quite a bit and over the past decade I have partnered several people repeatedly. At one time I was ranked #1 in the yahoo pinochle games rooms [out of millions] and after several months of not playing I came back to find myself lower ranked. Respectable 100 ish nothing terrible but the people who were ranked in top ten decided nobody should play me because of people I was friendly with. Nothing personal against me mind you. Now the way to get to #1 is to beat people closer to #1 than you and you move up the ladder. So I was blacklisted big whoop like I cared to prove I could be #1 again. BTW I was #1 in three different yahoo pinochle ladders so it wasn't a fluke like you care. Anyway I was getting ready to play a game which would move me up the ladder and I sent a message to a friend whom I had partnered many times and who was further away from the top than I was and he replied he wouldn't partner me because he didn't want to be blacklisted. Let me tell you I cried for hours and hours that somebody I considered a friend would care about a stupid number more than my feelings. My husband, when he saw how upset I was, told me listen baby they don't matter these people.... they don't make you soup when your sick, don't hold you when your down, don't pay your bills they are just electronic blips and mean nothing. I don't exactly cotton to this~ I know your real people with feelings and my net buddies have offered much comfort over the years. The paying of bills and soup hasn't happened tho ;^> Anyway over the years whenever two net buds start sniping at each other I avoid getting involved cause really its just plain stupid to get upset over something somebody who lives halfway around the country writes.... unless its a flat out personal attack instead of a simple misturn of phrase/statement of dissenting opinion. End typical Elka tangent.
OK so friend #1{the writer of post} is a very attractive woman. Can I say that? She is well put together~ well dressed, carefully made up etc etc etc. Friend #2 is more of a hippie chick/earth mama kinda gal. The post basically stated that friend #2 was vulgar and crass and not in the least bit attractive. Tactless was the exact word used but stuff was implied. I am totally appalled. Frankly I am so upset over the poor taste shown in the post that I don't care about friend #1 anymore. Tactless? Tactless is insulting somebody else's physical appearance and limitations~ friend #2 is physically limited due to medical conditions and yes these were brought up in post. In the mean spiritedness of the original post and I am nowhere near bitchy umm witty as the original author~ I sincerely hope the makeup pot is full cause lady your insides will never look as good as my still friends outside.
Posted by Elka at July 11, 2005 10:11 PM
Comments
You said it better than I ever could. People who have nothing better to do with their days than show off their wit by insulting others should GET A JOB.
Posted by: CarolineF at July 12, 2005 07:00 AM
I can't believe it! Someone posted a message like that on a knitting list? Get Ex-friend #1 banned! That kind of stunt was never allowed on any list I was ever on....
While I do pride myself on my own wit--which is sometimes displayed in insults--I would NEVER publicly embarrass someone in such a cheap and degrading way. When I do succumb to the urge to hurl an insult, it's nearly always in private, and it's never unprovoked.
If these two ladies had some dirty laundry to air out, that's their business--it should never have been the list's.
Posted by: Lizzi at July 18, 2005 10:08 PM